CONVERSATIONS
 

WIDOWHOOD
 

PALLIATIVE CARE
 

CULTURE AND DIVERSITY
 

SPIRITUALITY AND FAITH
 

LAST RITES
 

CAREGIVING
 

HOSPICE
 

NURSING HOMES
 

CHILDREN
 

VIOLENCE
 

GRIEF AND LOSS
 

In this section, you will find recommended books to help you and your loved ones cope with end-of-life challenges.
 

Conversations   “Dying Well: A Prospect for Growth at the End of Life,” by Dr. Ira Byock (Riverhead Books, 1997; $24.95). “Handbook for Mortals: Guidance for People Facing Serious Illness,” by Joanne Lynn and Joan Harrold (Oxford Press, 1999; $28). “How to Help Children Through a Parent’s Serious Illness,” by Kathleen McCue and Ron Bonn (St. Martin’s Press, 1996; $12.95). “Peaceful Dying: The Step-by-Step Guide to Preserving Your Dignity, Your Choice, and Your Inner Peace at the End of Life,” by Daniel Tobin (Perseus, 1999; $14). Widowhood   “Letters to My Husband,” by Fern Field Brooks (Career Press, 1995; $19.99). “I’m Grieving As Fast As I Can: How Young Widows and Widowers Can Cope and Heal,” by Linda Feinberg (New Horizon Press, 1994; $14.95). “Widow to Widow: Thoughtful, Practical Ideas for Rebuilding Your Life,” by Genevieve Davis Gisburg (Fisher Books, 1999; $12.95). “Widowing: Surviving the First Year,” by Jane Krimbill and Nancy Brown, (Magoo Ltd. Midland, 1995; $9.95). “Doors Close, Doors Open: Widows, Grieving and Growing.” by Morton Lieberman (Putnam, 1996; $23.95). “A Decembered Grief: Living with Loss While Others are Celebrating,” by Harold Ivan Smith (Beacon Hill Press, Kansas City, 1999; $12.99). Palliative Care   “The Dying Process: Patients’ Experiences of Palliative Care,” by Julia Lawton (Routledge, 2000; $24.99). “Living With Dying: A Guide for Palliative Care,” by Cicely M. Saunders, Mary Baines and Robert Dunlop (Oxford University Press, 1995; $23.95). “Hospice and Palliative Care,” by Virginia F. Sendor and Patrice M. O’Connor (Scarecrow Press, 1997; $39.50). Culture and Diversity   “Cultural Issues in End-of-Life Decision Making,” edited by Kathryn L. Braun, James H. Pietsch and Patricia Blanchette (Sage Publications Inc, 2000; no price available) “The Spirit Catches You and You Fall Down,” by Anne Fadiman (Farrar Straus & Giroux, 1997; $12.60) “Facing Death: Where Culture, Religion and Medicine Meet,” edited by Howard M. Spiro, Mary G. McCrea Curnen and Lee Palmer Wandel (Yale University Press, 1998; $16.95) Video: “Worlds Apart”: A broadcast documentary film and medical education project that tells the stories of patients, families and doctors as they make critical medical decisions, and portrays their lives, cultural perspectives and communities. Contact the Filmmaker-in-Residence Program at the Stanford Center for Biomedical Ethics; (650) 723-5760; http://scbe.stanford.edu Spirituality and Faith   "The Blessings of Music®" an easy-to-use book with 2 music CDs By James Schaller (Sound Covenant, $39.95 plus $3.50 shipping)   “Recovering the Soul: A Scientific and Spiritual Approach,” by Larry Dossey (Bantam Books, 1989; $14.95) “The Grace in Dying: How We Are Transformed Spiritually As We Die,” by Kathleen Dowling Singh (Harper San Francisco, 2000; $15) “Who Dies?: An Investigation of Conscious Living and Conscious Dying,” by Stephen Levine (Anchor Books, 1992; $12.95) “How to Survive the Loss of a Love,” by Peter McWilliams, Harold Bloomfield and Melba Colgrove (Prelude Press, 1993; $6.95) Last Rites   “Fatherloss: How Sons of All Ages Come to Terms With the Deaths of Their Dads,” by Neil Chethik (Hyperion, 2001; $14) “Motherless Daughters: The Legacy of Loss” by Hope Edelman (Delta, 1995; $11.96) “At Journey’s End: The Complete Guide to Funerals and Funeral Planning,” by Abdullah Fatteh, Naaz Fatteh and David R. Pearson (Health Information Pr.; $14.95) “A Child’s Book About Funerals and Cemeteries,” by Earl Grollman (Centering Corp., 2000; $4.95) “The Undertaking: Life Studies from the Dismal Trade,” by Thomas Lynch (W.W. Norton & Co., 1997; $18.40) “The Perfect Stranger’s Guide to Funerals and Grieving Practices: A Guide to Etiquette in Other People’s Religious Ceremonies,” by Stuart M. Matlins (Skylight Paths Pub; $16.95) “The Eternal Pity: Reflections on Dying (The Ethics of Everyday Life),” edited by Richard John Neuhaus (University of Notre Dame Press, 2000; $15) “Purified by Fire: A History of Cremation in America,” by Stephen R. Prothero (University of California Press 2000; $22) “Remembering Well: Rituals for Celebrating Life and Mourning Death,” by Sarah York (John Wiley & Sons, 2000; $16) Caregiving   “Dying Well: Peace and Possibilities at the End of Life,” by Ira Byock (Putnam, 1998; $14) “Share the Care,” by Cappy Capossela, Sheila Warnock and Sukie Miller (Simon and Schuster; 1995; $13) “Changing Places: A Journey With My Parents into Their Old Age,” by Judy Kramer (Putnam, 2000; $14) “Always on Call,” by Carol Levine (United Hospital Fund; $20; available at www.uhfnyc.org) “The Helper’s Journey: Working With People Facing Grief, Loss and  Life-Threatening Illness,” by Dale Larson (Research Press, 1993; $19.95) “Elder Rage or Take My Father ... Please! How to Survive Caring for Aging Parents,” by Jacquelline Marcell (Impressive Press, 2001; $19.95) “Another Country: Navigating the Emotional Terrain of Our Elders,” by Mary Bray Pipher (Penguin/Putnam, 2000; $13.95) “Losing Your Parents and Finding Yourself: The Defining Turning Point of Adult Life,” by Victoria Secunda (Hyperion, 2000; $14.95) Hospice “The Hospice Handbook: A Complete Guide,” by Larry Beresford (Little and Brown, 1993; $14.95) “Hospice: Practice, Pitfalls, and Promise,” by Stephen Connor (Taylor & Francis, 1998; $28.95) “All Kinds of Love: Experiencing Hospice,” by Carolyn Jaffe and Carol Ehrlich (Baywood, 1997; $29.95) “The Hospice Choice: In Pursuit of a Peaceful Death,” by Marcia Lattanzi-Licht, John J. Mahoney and Galen Miller (Simon & Schuster, 1998; $12) Nursing Homes “Choosing Medical Care in Old Age: What Kind, How Much, When to Stop,” by Muriel Gillick (Harvard University Press, 1994; $19.95) “Changing Places: A Journey with My Parents Into Their Old Age,” by Judy Kramer (Riverhead Books, 2000; $24.95) “Consumer Reports Complete Guide to Seniors: What You and Your Family Need to Know About Finding and Financing, Medicare, Assisted Living, Nursing Homes, Home Care, Adult Day Care,” Trudy Lieberman, editor (Consumer Reports, 2000; $18.95) “Choosing a Nursing Home: A Step-by-Step Guide,” by Rick Wilfong (ZWI and Associates, 2000; $19.95) Children “Shadows in the Sun,” by Betty Davies (Brunnder/Mazel, 1999; $29.95) “Living with Grief: Children, Adolescents and Loss,” edited by Kenneth Doka (Hospice Foundation of America, 2000)  “The Grieving Child: A Parent’s Guide,” by Helen Fitzgerald (Simon and Schuster, 1992; $12)  “Some Folks Say: Stories of Life, Death and Beyond,” by Jane Hughes Gignoux (FoulkeTale Publishing, 1998; $29.95) “Care of the Dying Child,” edited by Anne Goldman (Oxford University Press, 1998; $29.95) “Hospice Care for Children,” edited by Sarah Zarbock Goltzer and Anne Armstrong-Dailey (Oxford University Press, 1993; $45) “Talking about Death: A Dialogue Between Parent and Child,” by Earl Grollman (Beacon Press, 1990; $15.50) “Helping Children Grieve: When Someone They Love Dies,” by Theresa Huntley (Augsburg, 1991; $8.99) “Helping Children Cope with the Loss of a Loved One: A Guide for Grownups,” by William Kroen (Free Spirit Publishing, 1996; $14.95) “Remembering with Love: Messages of Hope for the First Year of Grieving and Beyond,” by Elizabeth Levand and Sherokee Ilse (Fairview Press, 1995; $11.95) “You Are Special,” by Max Lucado (Crossway Books, 1997; $15) “Cat Heaven,” by Cynthia Rylant (Blue Sky Press, 1997; $15) “God’s Paintbrush,” by Sandy Eisenberg Sasso and Annette Compton (Jewish Lights Publishing, 1992; $16.95) “How Do We Tell the Children? A Step-by-Step Guide for Helping Children Two to Teen Cope when Someone Dies,” by Dan Schaefer and Christine Lyons (Newmarket Press, 1993; $18.95) “The Andrew Poems,” by Shelly Wagner (Texas Tech University Press, 1994; $16.50) “Old Turtle,” by Douglas Wood and Margaret Pike (Centering Corp, 1992; $5.95) “Cancer Pain Relief and Palliative Care in Children,” by World Health Organization (Geneva, 1998; $16.20) Violence   “Coping with Trauma: A Guide to Self-Understanding,” J. Allen (American Psychiatric Press, 1999; $26)  “Living with Grief After Sudden Loss: Suicide, Homicide, Accident, Heart Attack, Stroke,” Ken Doka, editor (Taylor and Francis, 1996; $16.95) “No Time to Say Goodbye: Surviving the Suicide of a Loved One,” by Carla Fine (Main Street Books, 1999; $12.95) “No Time for Goodbyes: Coping With Sorrow, Anger and Injustice After a Tragic Death,” by Janice Harris Lord (Pathfinder Publisher, 1991; $11.95) “Remember Lee: The End Is the Beginning — A Touching Story About the Unexpected Loss of a Child,” by Linda Musser (Centering Corp., 1996; $7.95) “I Wasn’t Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One,” by Brook Noel, Pamela D. Blair (Champion Pr Ltd., 2000; $14.95) “Healing After the Suicide of a Loved One,” by Ann Smolin (Fireside, 1993; $12) “What Will We Do? Preparing a School Community to Cope With Crises,” by R. Stevenson, editor (Baywood Publishing Co., 1995; $34.95) Grief and Loss   “Nobody’s Child Anymore: Grieving, Caring and Comforting When Parents Die,” by Barbara Bartocci (Sorin Books, 2000; $11.95) “The Mourning Handbook: A Complete Guide for the Bereaved,” by Helen Fitzgerald (Simon & Schuster, 1994; $22) “Safe Passage: Words to Help the Grieving Hold Fast and Let Go,” by Molly Fumia (Conari Press, 1992; $10.95) “Living When a Loved One Has Died,” by Earl Grollman (Beacon Press, 1995; $10) “When Bad Things Happen to Good People,” by Harold Kushner (Avon, 1994; $5.99) “A Broken Heart Still Beats: After Your Child Dies,” by Anne McCracken and Mary Semel (Hazelden Information Education, 2000; $15) “Surviving Grief And Learning to Live Again,” by Catherine M. Saunders, (John Wiley & Sons, 1992; $17.95)